Above is a popular picture taken in Sedona of Cathedral Rock. This view serves as the backdrop for the many weddings performed in Sedona and is also a famous tourist picture as one can see the mirror image of Cathedral Rock in the Oak Creek below.
Within this picture lies a beautiful story that was once shared with me by a wonderful couple that I once took on a jeep tour. In the middle of the rock it looks as if there is a couple standing back to back with one another. To the left of the couple is a rock that looks like a podium with head on it overlooking the couple (the person giving the service). And on each side of that are the large rocks that represent the rocks/support in our life – Spirit, family, friends, faith, etc.
When I shared this scene with the couple they shared that they were of Ojibiway origin and that they get married back to back. One person has 180 degrees of the circle which is their energy and responsibility. The other person has the other half. They shared that, if you were looking at the person in front of you, you couldn’t see behind their back and they couldn’t see behind yours. But, if you stand back to back, each person can share their perspective and, together, they can see the whole 360 degrees. In this way, relationships become less about who wins (energetically) than they do a mutual sharing of each other. They finished by saying we attract people into our lives who have a piece of the pie (about ourselves) that we don’t understand and that, if we trust them, they will share that piece with us and bring us closer to wholeness.
I have always loved to share this story because it just has so much depth and possible meaning. We will be using the story of standing back to back and the concept of the mirror image to show how important our relationships are by mirroring back to us what we need to learn to return to our natural state of balance and harmony.
I am sharing these ideas in response to an article I saw on Facebook that claimed that only 2 out of 10 marriages last. I was a bit surprised by the statistic but, when I really looked at the all of the relationships around me, perhaps I have just been fooling myself. The amount of relationships that I would deem happy/sustainable are so few and far in between that I began to wonder if I knew of any truly healthy relationships, including my own? Why is that?
To explore this a bit further (for myself and to share with you) I am offering ideas in three parts: Part 1 will look at what relationship means and use the concept of standing back to back to illustrate the potential for a healthy relationship. Part 2 will explore some reasons for why we see so many unhealthy relationships today and how we can use them as learning tools. Part 3 will offer some ideas for how to bring ourselves and, thus, our relationships, back into balance.
Perhaps by shining some light on the subject we can uncover the true power of relationships and begin to build ones that help us to take our journeys to deeper levels of Being.